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The balancing act.

May 2, 2012
Recently a friend asked me “How does it feel to be read (through the blog) by more than 700 people?”. But are all the 700 really reading it? I doubt that! The number is a transient one, constantly changing. Today there might be 100 and tomorrow 25. There will be those few special ones who will stick around but the rest is not a fixed number.If you constantly keep worrying about the number of followers, readers, comments that you are getting, you will neither have any peace of mind nor will you be able to produce any quality work. I have never publicly declared that “Oh I have so many followers!” or that “I have reached/crossed so and so number of followers” because it has never (honestly never!) bothered me. I have people following/un-following every day and its a continuous process.

Be it in blogging or in any other aspect of life, I stick to one rule that helps me stay balanced and focussed.

“Never let insults get to your heart and never let praise get to your head”. As long as you keep this in mind, come anonymous haters or lovers – you’ll be good to go!

p.s : This post has been submitted for InFb remix : Florals.

Jeans : Levis
Top : PaperScissors (Sydney)
Floral jacket : Max
Necklace : Crunchyfashion.com
Shoes : Catwalk
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  • Reply John Marine May 2, 2012 at 2:07 am

    This is a very cute casual outfit. Nicely put together with the floral jacket and coral top. Nice sandals as well. I also like the chocolate brown handbag which matches your sweet chocolate brown hair. Very nice outfit! 🙂


  • Reply Outside Looking In May 2, 2012 at 2:32 am

    Nice floral cardi and love the necklace! Great to keep in mind about the numbers game!

  • Reply StyleInked May 2, 2012 at 4:03 am

    I like how you have styled your floral jacket with the flower necklace. Great outfit 🙂

  • Reply Thrifted Shift May 2, 2012 at 4:05 am

    Great advice and fabulous necklace!

  • Reply nitika May 2, 2012 at 4:40 am

    I totally agree with you- followers, pageviews or comments should not come in the way of one's passion !! : )
    Nd that jacket goes so well with the top.. lovely 🙂

  • Reply bha May 2, 2012 at 4:55 am

    o like your jacket and your attitude towards life cheers 🙂

  • Reply bha May 2, 2012 at 4:55 am

    i like your jacket and your attitude towards life cheers 🙂

  • Reply PeeVee™ May 2, 2012 at 6:46 am

    The color of the top suits you and I love the jacket…
    Oh and are you growing younger by the day? In the second picture you don't look more than 19…

    As for not being obsessed with numbers, yes, so right you are and I learnt that too late.

  • Reply Ri(t)ch Styles May 2, 2012 at 7:00 am

    True that! 🙂 And I love your floral jacket!


  • Reply Jessy John May 2, 2012 at 7:03 am

    love your jacket and also your necklace!

  • Reply Zainab Imichi Alhassan May 2, 2012 at 7:09 am

    nice jacket. you do casual really well. And i get what you are trying to say in your post. Wise!

  • Reply shooting star May 2, 2012 at 7:48 am

    totally agree with your point of view gal….lie the floral jacket…its pretty!!!


  • Reply Carrie May 2, 2012 at 8:03 am

    The coral blouse looks great with the floral cardigan. You have a very sensible approach to the blogging numbers game. 🙂

  • Reply Dip May 2, 2012 at 8:12 am

    makes sense. one cant blog in peace if constantly worried about followers/comments :>

    like the jacket :]

  • Reply ಅಶ್ವಿನಿ/ Ashwini May 2, 2012 at 9:07 am

    The necklace is pretty pretty. It so compliments the floral jacket.

    Yes the numbers really don't matter. You have rightly pointed out what to focus on.

  • Reply Mirage May 2, 2012 at 10:31 am

    True that fraand! 🙂

    And I love your floral jacket…give it to me.. 😀 ^_^

  • Reply Jack May 2, 2012 at 3:37 pm

    T G A F A,

    One should write for own satisfaction. Comments or feedback do encourage but it should not be the only thought in mind when one writes.

    Take care

  • Reply The Dainty Dolls House May 2, 2012 at 4:07 pm

    very pretty!! And I agree with the above, one should write and share for their own satisfaction. There will always be someone who enjoys it and its good to not pay attention to the numbers or it will drive you crazy. 🙂

  • Reply SEPO May 2, 2012 at 4:43 pm

    The necklace is really pretty 🙂
    Love it and your balancing act 🙂

  • Reply Rumela May 2, 2012 at 8:45 pm

    Love how everything is put together..I loved ur floral jacket s pretty

  • Reply Fashionettista!! May 3, 2012 at 2:27 am

    I totally agree..this is such a good post! some followers are just for d numbers, and some are really following ur blog..just like mine..sometimes i get hurt when i saw that there are 2 followers who unfollowed..but then thx to ur advice! kisses! hope to see u on my blog again..it's been a while darling..Lee

  • Reply CD!!! May 3, 2012 at 8:28 am

    So true that numbers don't matter.
    And I love your jacket and the necklace:)

  • Reply Megha Sarin May 3, 2012 at 1:25 pm

    Love your floral jacket <3
    And I know it is better not to fret about the followers and sometimes who actually reads!


  • Reply Anjuli May 3, 2012 at 3:34 pm

    I love the quote about not letting insults go to your heart or praises go to your head!! I must remember that!!! Good one!

  • Reply Sunaina! May 3, 2012 at 4:36 pm

    Hey Chandana,

    You might want to see this.. 🙂


  • Reply Ayantika May 4, 2012 at 8:00 am

    Loved your floral jacket ! 🙂

  • Reply Gurgaonflowerplaza May 4, 2012 at 12:09 pm

    loved it…

  • Reply Pink Jasmine by Shilpi May 5, 2012 at 5:25 am

    Floral jacket look lovely . U luk nice.


  • Reply bulbulvish May 6, 2012 at 7:48 am

    the neckpiece looks soo good on you:)
    and the floral jacket is really very pretty:)

    Elegance Stylized Blog❤

  • Reply Fydez May 6, 2012 at 3:27 pm

    I like your floral jacket! X

  • Reply Amit Kumar May 7, 2012 at 11:28 am

    The neckpiece looks uber cool. Hey since you are a fashion blogger, have you heard of the new Levis waterless campaign? I heard this water

  • Reply Life is a fairytale May 10, 2012 at 9:58 am

    Such a beautiful neckpiece 🙂 Need I say? Fab as ever 🙂 When I got into blogging, I didn't care about the followers and stuff. Mid way through, I was bothered. Intimidated. Now, back to a phase where I blog cuz I want to 🙂 No forcing my Twitter, Face Book, AndSoAndSO accounts to be reminded and liked and Please-Follow-Me-:(-I-Neeed-Your-Support-To-Survive-d by people 😀 Feels good when you blog, just blog 🙂 I love how every post of yours makes me think!! :*
    Namita <3

  • Reply toniestrologo May 17, 2012 at 12:20 pm

    you look so fab and the cardigan is very cute.

    keep on blogging 🙂


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